Should You Dream of Perfect Relationships?

Through living our dreams; we make our presence here on earth truly memorable. If not for our dreams and precious moments; our life on earth would be rather mundane. Can you imagine how life would be without dreams?

Waking up without motivation and a need to associate ourselves with anything of value to ourselves and to others.

So, obviously desires are the necessities of life rather than the luxuries of life. In light of that, setting goals that help us attain our dreams are so valuable.

There is nothing inherently wrong then in dreaming about perfect relationships. Perfect relationships that inhabit in its very essence; our deep desire for long lasting love and companionship.

Dreams of such magnitude are note worthy and should require our full attention and energy. However, we must consider a few things before we embark upon our quest for the perfect relationship.

First of all, take a moment to ask yourself a few questions. Does this ideal of a perfect relationship really exist in our world? Can a perfect relationship be a figment of our imagination? Can we actually achieve a perfect relationship?

Well, before we go down that complex road; we must define what me mean by a perfect relationship. We can only achieve goals that are defined. Defined goals are realistic goals. We can then set in place a series of steps towards achieving those goals.

First, lets define a perfect relationship based on what its not. A perfect relationship is not a far fetched ideal that exists only in our minds. It is not an objective goal that we share with the rest of the world. It is not defined in terms of individual desires for self-gratification. A perfect relationship is not rooted in unrealistic gestures of love and affection. It is not a commodity.

A perfect relationship is almost impossible to define with set boundaries. We cannot articulate perfectly what it should feel like. Such feelings can never be contained or be truly defined. They are best experienced. For instance, we cannot contain the universe within the palms of our hands. Similarly, we cannot set boundaries for experiences that are so profound. These experiences are best not defined for respect of the experience.

However, for practical purpose, we will assume that a perfect relationship exists and can be defined. A perfect relationship is defined subjectivedly; meaning that it entails the feelings of both individuals. A perfect relationship is defined as a feeling of fulfillment between two like minded people where both are aware of one and other's mental presence. For example, when we think of our partner or when we long for our partner; we are illustrating this phenomenon. We build a cohesive bond during such times. A bond that is connected in many ways.

In a perfect relationship we experience comfort, warmth and genuine affection for one another. We become the very essence of a perfect relationship. We become that experience. We become that feeling. We experience togetherness. A wholeness. Its profound; but not overwhelming. It strengthens us.

We must not look for a perfect relationship. Instead, we must be willing and able to be overcome by it. It is only when we are overcome by it; that we can become it. It takes time and patience. Its not something we can achieve on our own. We need the togetherness of both individuals. Both individuals must collectively desire to become the perfect relationship. Its not a dream we can achieve single handedly. Regardless of our most noble efforts.

We must exercise inspired action in order to achieve a perfect relationship. It commands our emotional energy and attention. We must make valuable compromises, but not in the the sense of loss to gain. Compromise, rather, in the sense that we must give from the abundance of our heart. The giving becomes the gaining. Its immediate. There is no lag. There is no loss. In this immediate exchange; we are looking past our own gratification towards the betterment of one another. Betterment as a cohesive unit.

We cannot expect to achieve a perfect relationship unless we are in tune with ourselves. We are part of this delicate puzzle. It is only when we connect with ourselves that we can expect to form a union with the other puzzle piece. It is when we understand our authentic or true self; that we can expect to unite with our soul mate to become the perfect relationship. Be willing to love your true self; devoid of the opinions and expectatons of others. Our perception of ourselves is what really matters. Its paramount that we love who we are at the core of our being. Not just in the company of loved ones and friends, but in the silence of our own space. We must love ourselves when the night is dark; alone with only our thoughts for company.

Ask yourself a few questions when in solitude. Do I honestly love myself? Do I long for company and the affection of another? If you do then in your relationship; you may desire love from another. However, thats only a part of the equation. The other piece is you. You must love yourself and be willing to share that love with another.

Remember, when we love ourselves we set a perfect example for how others should love us. We are our own example of the perfecton that we so desire. If we do not show love for ourselves; then how can we expect love from another. In fact, we may have trouble accepting love when it finally arrives.

We should be faithful to our authentic self. We must be in touch with our true self; removed of its layers and stripped to its core. A state of optimal mindfulness. In this state of consciousness; you are not so much associated with the material world. You are in tune with your true self. You will be aware of your breathing. You will be aware of the natural environment that surrounds you. You will be aware of your body and mind.

In loving yourself at this state you become capable of becoming the perfect relationship. When our sense of self is in true harmony with the sense of self of another. We become synchronized. To further illustrate, when you share a subjective feeling of harmony with your respective partner for most of the time; then you become the perfect relationship.

Dreams of such magnitude are only possible through hard work every day. We cannot perfect our relationship without practice. There will always be opportunity for improvement. The key is to expect and be willing to work hard. There are many things we can do to make a difference in the lives of one and other. Many avenues can be explored. Possibilities are endless.

Our desire for a perfect relationship should be motivated from within. Its not based on a necessity that we care for another. Instead, our mindfulness are such that we are naturally drawn towards the expression of our love. Perfection is achieved when most moments together are of a genuine and fulfilling quality. A relatively perfect relationship.

Perfection is not to be misunderstood as an alluring and exotic destination. It does not exist in the distant future. Perfect relationships not only exists in our minds, but in our relationships. It exists in our present reality. We should not long for it. We must strive to have it exist in our present reality. Even if its just a speckle. We must strive to become it.

We must learn to appreciate our relationship in the persent moment. Be gratefull for what you have; and your surroundings will be different. Seriously, look for things to be grateful for in your relationship. Please take note of them on paper if you have to. Place them on sticky notes all around your house.

Find qualities to appreciate in your relationship and qualities to admire in your partner. Perhaps, you may notice little things that your partner does for you everyday. For instance, your partner may start the car and clean the snow from the driveway. On another occasion, your partner may prepare breakfast before you leave to work in the morning. And, maybe your partner comes home to share a story with you.

Learn to appreciate these things. Do not neglect these little things. They are little possibilities of a perfect relationship. When you appreciate and show gratitude towards your partner; you will learn to love them more as a result. Its natural and organic. The beginnning of a perfect relationship.